I have gone through many transitional processes in my life. None of them easy and none of them painless. My children have all at some stage or another complained of ‘growing pains’ – physical pains associated with growth spurts at different stages of development – growing spiritually also involves pain, not always specified.
We hear so much about “letting go”, I’m not disputing that this is good advise, merely that the process of letting go ought to involve understanding the lessons learned.
On the topic of letting go… it is an important lesson to learn, and not always an easy one.
For me, a part of reconnecting to who I am involves letting go of the things and the people that do not celebrate (or at the very least accept) the person I am. – Then, of course, there are those who pull me backwards or hold me in place so that I am unable to move forward… and those who are no longer with me through no choice of my own.
Life is a series of things to let go of – our friends and loved ones, our children as they grow, our youth, our perceptions of ourselves and of others.
In the last few years, I have been faced with letting go many things. I find myself now at a threshold of sorts. I’m not entirely sure what it is, but I sense change and I hope that I will be able to let go of the things that I need to, be they attitudes, habits, possessions or people.
The adults we become were written into the fabric of our childhood experiences. The messages we receive in childhood shape us. Those women I have met who have managed to find delight, satisfaction and contentment in their adult lives despite the most horrific of experiences have somehow managed to rewrite their histories, not by changing their past, but by changing their focus.
We can all do this. It is not dependent on a dysfunctional childhood or a bad experience. We all have everyday experiences within the context of our lives that serve to develop our attitudes.
The most successful people are those who learn from their experiences – and let go of those things that pull them back, not allowing them to evolve and grow into the women they were meant to become. I challenge you to become more aware of your attitudes and emotions, let go of what inhibits you, so that you can change the focus of your thoughts and become who you are.