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“There is no one way to raise our children, but a path that we must find.”  Barbara Coloroso

When we made the decision for my son Kinmond to leave formal schooling halfway through grade 11 and continue through home schooling, we both knew that it would be a tremendous challenge, but I don’t think anything could have prepared us for the discipline, work and dedication it would require.  Kinmond had a tremendous amount of work to catch up, and I continued to run my company. 

Despite the sacrifices, it was an amazing experience.  I got to spend a tremendous amount of time with my son and got to know him as the incredible young man he has become.

All the effort proved worth it when we learned yesterday that he had passed Matric.  He is now registered for a Certificate in Advanced Music Production and plans to follow this with Entertainment Management.

The lessons I have learned over the last year and a half are things that can never be taught.  I’ve come to truly believe that anything is achievable.

I’m looking forward to 2010 and all the new challenges and projects awaiting me, and to watching my son go from strength to strength on the journey he is about to embark upon.


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‘There is no path to peace. Peace is the path.’ ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Besides the fact that a lot of the other titles I had in mind weren’t available…

I chose Tactile Soul as the title of my blog because I believe that we need to touch (and be touched) with our soul’s.  That may sound like a contradiction, tactile meaning ‘capable of being perceived by the sense of touch’, and the sense of touch being thought of as physical or tangible.  And yet, we are touched by things emotionally and spiritually all the time.

This blog is really about reconnecting to our selves, and in order to know who you really are you need to open yourself and allow yourself to be touched more than superficially.

We need to be present in each and every moment, live simply and keep centered.   Remember, it’s about the journey.

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The work of accepting ourselves and our path never stops, even when it is so radically not what we want or what fits our idea of who we are. If you’re anything like me, you probably feel overwhelmed by all the changes you’d like to see in your life. I know the thing’s I’d like to change; exercise more, be more available to friends, have quality time with my husband and children… But it seems that the more I resolve to make these changes, the more I feel I’ve failed.

These past few weeks particularly have led me to re-evaluate once again, and this time, instead of adding to an already impossible to do list (both work wise and personally) I have resolved to cross things off and focus only on those things that are essential (in terms of making a living) or that I really want to do (personally). The questions I’m asking myself are “Do I really have to do this? Do I really want to do this? Why am I actually doing this?”;  and if the answers are not satisfactory, I’ll delete it. This may sound radical but don’t you ever feel that your life is just clogged down with ‘busyness’.

I took time out yesterday afternoon to visit with one of my best friends. Yes, on a work day! We took our kids to lunch, she highlighted my hair and I got her signed up to facebook. I don’t remember the last time we spent time together unrushed by work and commitments. I feel so much better for it. So instead of long to do lists that hide out in the dark corners of my mind I will resolve firstly not to worry about things I have no control over and as far as possible to concentrate on the things I really want to do and are manageable. One week at a time.

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“It’s astounding, time is fleeting, madness takes it’s toll.” Riff Raff in the Rocky Horror Picture Show

The photo on the right is courtesy of my very talented son, Kinmond Robertson

It’s astounding how far off course we can get without cognitive realisation. One day, you wake up and wonder “Where in the world am I, and just how the f*&ck did I get here?” (those of you offended by my colloquial language, please click on the X in the top right corner of your screen)

Life is four dimensional, while our plans, goals, dreams and aspirations tend to remain in the realm of the two dimensional. I haven’t shared here in a while. I’ve been bogged down with so many different responsibilities and completely underestimated my ability to cope with any degree of panache. My plans for this blog were most certainly stuck in two dimensions and ended up way down on my list of priorities when life threw me a curve ball (well, yeah, more than one).

I dropped it. The ball that is; and, in dropping this thing that I had so many plans around, realised that sometimes it’s necessary to drop the ball and take a step back so that you can refocus, and realign yourself.

The truth is that life will throw you a curve at least twice a year. At least, that’s been my experience, every six months or so I find myself in a situation or circumstance that has knocked me off course. There’s nothing to be done about it. We cannot predict the future. That’s just life. But if we are not setting our goals with these unforeseen ‘bumps in the road’ in mind, we will only become discouraged. When setting your goals, be aware of this. Be prepared to set things aside for a time, deal with the crises and then refocus your efforts.

As time slips by it is important to open your eyes and take an honest look at your life. Have you allowed the “bumps in the road” to alter your direction? Are you happy with your current course. If not, take the time to refocus. Be kind to yourself. It’s not too late to re-centre your heart and your mind.

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